How to De-Stress This Christmas - some tips and thoughts
De-Stress This Christmas
“Does the sound of Mariah Carey at the local Westfield send you rocking in the corner? Do you get a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach when you see Christmas puddings and fruit mince tarts in the supermarket? “… You’re not alone!
Christmas can be a stressful time for many people. The crowded shops, the pressure to buy the perfect present, a fistful of party invitations, bored kids on school holidays, a growing credit card balance and the in-laws asking, “what are you doing on Christmas day?”
Christmas Stress!
These two words should not be synonymous, but unfortunately, the act of thinking about the impending Christmas season can send most people into a spin.
A simple, beautiful ritual of gathering and celebrating the day also comes with a side order of stress, anxiety, guilt and sheer panic.
Between the end of year school events, work Christmas parties, sport’s awards, family events, school holidays, entertaining the kids, holiday care, present and food shopping....and don’t forget the manic need to completely spring clean the entire house.... I’m exhausted just typing this!
Want a Calm Christmas?
Start by asking yourself, “what does Christmas mean to me?” Christmas has a special meaning for everyone.
It could have spiritual significance, it could be about family, food, carols, gifts, rest, peace, activities, or time off work.
Get clear about what YOU value most about the season.
Take five minutes to write it down.
Write your values on a sticky note and post it somewhere you will see it everyday.
Ask those closest to you what they value the most.
Acknowledge that they may have different values and be open to holding that space for them.
However, remember that no one should be held hostage to other people’s unrealistic expectations.
Top Tips for a Calm Christmas
1. Share the load. Assign jobs to family members.
2. Prioritise the important things. Are themed napkins and place cards going to make- or-break the day?
3. Make shopping a special event. Hit the shops with a friend and end it with a special treat.
4. Put a dollar limit on presents. Try secret Santa. Do gift vouchers or cash gifts. Try a present-free holiday!
5. Put on carols and have a present-wrapping party.
6. Say yes when someone offers to help.
7. Say no when you don’t want to do something.
Repeat after me...
“I would love to see the family for Christmas, but I’m not up for hosting this year.”
“We have decided to go away this year and have a Christmas adventure.”
“I need help with Christmas this year, can you take care of the presents?”
“It’s kind of you to offer, no thank you.”
“Yes, please bring food and drinks to share!”
If you feel pressured, stressed, or are struggling with mental health issues, communicate that to the people around you. Don’t suffer in silence. Reach out and chat to a trusted friend or family member. Use the sticky note as a daily reminder to chase after what’s really important this Christmas season.
Peace and rest be with you.
By Jenni Gilbank